J. Lo's Theory

I just remembered that J. Lo TV feature which mostly is a behind-the-scenes narrative on her first ever runway show. Particularly, what came to mind is that one line wherein she says that the greatest fulfillment for her is doing things that everyone says she can't do.

I guess it's human nature. The more people want to pull you down, the more you fight and struggle to be on top. To some extent, I agree with this reaction. Each criticism should be taken as a challenge. The negatives should be converted into positives whenever possible. But, I don't really fully agree that this should be done for the sole purpose of proving everyone else wrong. End goal should be improvement of self. It should not be about them; it should be about you.

Throughout her career, J. Lo has been center of heavy criticism. The effects of which probably brings her to her viewpoint of proving people wrong. I can't blame her. The intent with which the comments were made is most likely malicious, crude gossiping.

This brings me to my next point. Intention. When someone comments on you or what you do, I guess one should determine why such comment was made. Was it for your own good? Or was it in ill faith?

Then there's delivery. There's a thin line between frankness and insensitivity. Some people talk straight about what they think. Others talk straight about what they think without considering the other person's feelings. There's a big difference. Sadly, these people do not recognize that aside from honesty and frankness, tact is a virtue too.

I've received a few such comments. People blabbing about what I cannot do and what cannot possibly happen. Although I want to ignore such crap, sometimes it affects me. Then again, I won't apologize for who I am and who I'm evolving to be. You people just wait and see.